We need to maintain Focus
on our Behavior 
 - - - - - - - (eating)

rather than on Results 
 - - - - - - - (weight-loss)

Our weight is not the problem.
It’s our eating that’s the problem

My weight is not my problem.
It’s one of the EFFECTS of my problem.

My problem is I eat more food than my body needs.

Not more than somebody else’s body needs.

More than MY body needs.

Not more than my body used to need when I was younger or more
active.

More than my body needs NOW.

Not more than my body WOULD NEED IF I had different genes and metabolism.

More than my body needs with the genes and metabolism that I have.

 That’s why there’s extra weight on it.        

My above post reflects thoughts and attitudes that I've shared here at DietHobby over and over, and my words here  contain a paraphrase of an online post I recently ran across by someone who quoted a UK addiction counselor, Gillian Riley.  As a result of discovering that she appears to have an attitude quite similar to mine, I have purchased a Kindle edition of her latest book "Ditching Diets", and am checking out her website. Most of you know that ... as a part of my dieting hobby .... I read many, many diet books, and it is possible that after reading it, I might review it or share more of my thoughts about it.

Here at DietHobby, I keep saying the same things over and over. … like I do in my own mind.

I repeat these things, because I need to hear them again and again. I often post copies of articles within this website so that in my future, I can easily find them and read them to encourage and/or inspire myself.

In an article here, when I say “we”, I mean me and anyone else who is interested in agreeing with me. DietHobby is a place that I share philosophies and points of view that I find personally helpful or interesting.

Although the dates of my posts in the Archives make it SEEM like I have a daily posting commitment, this is actually inaccurate, because I don’t.

If other people are inspired as a Result of me working to inspire Myself, I’m pleased, but I don’t have a commitment to help or inspire Others. What I have is a commitment to do whatever things that I find encouraging and inspiring for Me on my lifelong weight-loss, weight-maintenance journey.

My own success is based on keeping my Focus on “What Works For Me”. Is this Selfish? Yes, … but I choose not to necessarily see that as a “Bad” thing.

DietHobby has been here for 2 years now, and I expect to keep this website in existence for a very long time, but if … in the future …. days, or weeks, or even months go by without a post from me here, that will still be a successful follow through of my own initial Plan for this site.

There's No Cure for Obesity
           By Dr. Yoni Freedhoff M.D.    2/2013 - Health Section of U.S. News.

Despite what you may see in breathless advertisements, or read from the latest diet book guru, or hear from celebrity diet spokespeople, there simply is no cure for obesity. Although you probably already know that in your bones (after all, if there were a cure, the world would certainly not be struggling with weight), I'm guessing that you may still approach weight-management efforts as if a cure was possible.

In my experience working with thousands of people, the majority seem to believe that there are two phases to weight management—the weight-loss phase and the weight-maintenance phase—and that the losing phase will require far more restriction than the maintaining phase.

And therein lies the rub: If the ability to gain weight in our modern environment is considered the condition, it's one that never goes away, which means weight-management efforts are treatments, and when treatments stop, conditions recur. So if you've lost weight following a strict approach, only to relax it once the weight is lost, you might be unpleasantly surprised to see your weight return.

Two weeks ago, the New England Journal of Medicine published a piece highlighting the myths, presumptions, and facts that surround our current understanding of obesity. Among the facts mentioned is this one: "Continuation of conditions that promote weight loss promotes maintenance of lower weight." The point can be expanded upon by some of my favorite weight-management truisms:

• The more weight you'd like to permanently lose,
the more of your life you'll need to permanently change.

• If you can't happily eat less, you're not going to eat less.

• If you can't happily exercise more, you're not going to exercise more.

• Your best weight is whatever weight you reach,
when you're living the healthiest life you actually enjoy.

So remember, whatever you choose to do to lose the weight, if you stop doing it, the weight's going to come back. What that means, of course, is that if you don't like your life while you're losing weight, you're going to gain your weight back. Putting this another way, whatever strategy you choose for weight management, if you see the strategy as a temporary means to an end, the end will likely only be temporary.

If you're on a diet that leaves you regularly hungry or having cravings, you're going to quit. If you're exercising beyond the point of liking it, with the hours or the effort a source of dread, you're going to quit.

Our shared affliction, the human condition, simply isn't good at letting us live lives of unnecessary, perpetual suffering. So even if you do manage to lose boatloads of weight through misery, since suffering through under-eating and over-exercising is wholly unnecessary, the suffering, and the losses, won't last.

If you're planning a weight-management effort, or if you're in the midst of one, make sure you ask this one all-important and straightforward question: "Do I like the life I'm living?" If the answer's no, I'd recommend you try something else, because if you don't like the life you're living, you're not going to keep living that way. And for obesity, there is no cure, only ongoing treatment.

Yoni Freedhoff, MD, is an assistant professor of family medicine at the University of Ottawa, where he's the founder and medical director of the Bariatric Medical Institute—dedicated to non-surgical weight management since 2004. Dr. Freedhoff posts frequently at Weighty Matters. Dr. Freedhoff's latest book Why Diets Fail and How to Make Yours Work will be published by Random House's Crown/Harmony in 2014.

I simply could not resist posting this.

I'm pleased to report that this morning I received my
coveted heart-shaped box of chocolates. 
Now my goal is to avoid tasting any of them for as long as possible.
I've always had a fantasy of getting such a gift, and stretching out the consumption of it, to the point that many chocolates actually turn white from age.   It's never happened, but it COULD happen.  . . . . . . . . . . . . Maybe . . . . . . . . . .

I am fortunate to have a long relationship with a wonderful husband. I love him dearly, but I must admit I also have another long-time love, A love that is far less kind to me, a love that sometimes tends to become obsessively out of control.  Daily contact between us is unavoidable, and I must admit that it is often in my thoughts.

Or, ... maybe not. 

It's always a choice.