Everyone who tries to lose weight has ups and downs
that go with their hopes and expectations.
A big part of that task is to keep from
getting discouraged enough to give up. 
 The easiest pounds to lose are the first few,
which are usually water weight.
The beginning of a diet usually inspires the false hope
that shedding the rest of the pounds will be easy.

But plateaus come in waves
as the body accommodates to the new caloric intake
and becomes more efficient.
Just as a machine can become more highly tuned,
the body can get more out of fewer calories,
and tends to hold on to the calories it has to work with. 

  During periods of failure to lose weight, despite sticking rigidly
to the prescribed caloric intake and exercise regimen,
people begin to falter and lose hope.

We all have an ideal self, which is the self that we wish to be.
Failing to achieve that self and fulfill its goals
can lead to self-criticism and devaluation.
Harsh internal judgments lead to a sense of failure,
hopelessness, and depression. 

 When we decide to diet,
we make an internal resolution and expect to live up to it.
We can have initial success, and then the road gets rougher.
We get to those inevitable plateaus that we will either overcome
or that will overcome us.
We can come closer to affirming our ideal self,
or feel disappointment in ourselves.

The capacity to make changes into habits requires perseverance.
We must consistently work to develop new behaviors
that we hope will become automatic.

The first time we change a habit,
it is hard and we are very conscious of the effort it takes.
The more times we do it, the more it becomes grooved,
and then, gradually, we can do it automatically.

Pride in our weight-loss accomplishment then can
become a greater pleasure than that snack in which
we might have previously indulged. 

 We find our self-esteem enhanced when we live up to our goal;
get reinforcement from the scale instead of punishment;
and thereby live up to our slimmer and trimmer ideal self.

Some of us are super-critical of ourselves.
It helps to examine our the ideal and set realistic goals,
because this can reduce the harshness of our internal judgment
when a goal is not attained.
Essentially, we need to learn to be kinder and gentler to ourselves.
and treat ourselves the way we might treat others.

How can we be kind to ourselves at moments of "failure?"
First, aim high, but never underestimate the difficulty of the undertaking.
Every quest has its pitfalls and many skirmishes and battles are lost
before winning a war. When we are wounded by a "defeat",
we need some kind words for ourselves.

It is important to remember that these are our own private battles,
where each of us is the General.
We set the goals, we know our weaknesses.
Our strategy must include a way to handle temporary setbacks,
but if we keep our eyes on the prize,
we will recognize any defeat is temporary,
and that we will ultimately reach our goals.

 Take small steps and be gentle with yourself about weight-loss.

Today is really all we have,
and we need to focus on living in it.

And yet ...at the same time...we need to remember
that the choices we make today
will affect our tomorrows.

I've been thinking about what "Doing the Impossible" means.
In my life, I've accomplished many "impossible" things.

  At one time, losing 150 lbs and maintaining
all of that weight loss for 6 years seemed impossible,
but it is something I've accomplished.

As a mid-century young woman wth a blue-collar background,
becoming a lawyer was such an impossiblity,
that in my youth, I found it too incredible to even imagine,
let alone fantasize about.
But I ultimately entered that profession and practiced law for 25 years.

There were times in my life that I didn't know how
I was going to manage living even one more day.
 But I did it, and now I'm in my mid-60s, 
 and am enjoying my "elderly" years.

Just a few years ago, the idea of having my own website,
writing daily Blog articles, and making YouTube videos
was beyond consideration, yet now I'm doing it.

 I started by doing what was Necessary.

 This is it for today.

Short and Simple, but a great Truth.

I don't wake in a good mood every morning.
Some days, it takes a lot of work to develop a positive attitude.
I'm successful at weight-loss and maintenance of that weight-loss,
and overall, I'm a fairly positive person,
but there are times when I feel sad and low.

Turning my mind toward the positives in my life,
doesn't cause me to escape negative feelings,
it just keeps them from hanging around as long.

I"ve found that sometimes the fear of a feeling,
with a frantic attempt to immediately escape from it,  
is actually worse than the underlying feeling that I'm afraid of.

Feelings happen...no matter what...and it's okay to feel every one.
I've learned that one feeling will soon be replaced by a different one.
Just experience the wave of feeling...good or bad...
let it surface in yourself, ride it out, and then let it go.

 I like this quote by a member of a forum I frequent:

"Weight loss is not your sole achievement in life.
You are not just your weight loss.

You have worth as a person,
because of your mind & your feelings
& your relationships & activities.

The weight loss is not like a lucky winning streak
that you have to strain to keep up
& you are a complete failure if you eat.

Also, it's okay to feel black despair & sorrow & loneliness.
What you don't want to do is to eat when you feel like this.
You can shove all the food you want into the black hole
& that will still not fill it up.

Sometimes you just have to ride out the wave, white-knuckled,
when there is no hope in the world.
You just have to sit it out.

I swear, after the wave closes over your head, you will surface again."

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start: 247
Now: 139
Height 5’3”