Am I Satisfied With My Appearance?

- POSTED ON: Jun 10, 2017

I will never be 100% satisfied
with the way I look.

In general, I like the way I look, but in reality we all have an ideal picture in our heads of what “thin” should be.  No matter how successful I am on any diet, my individual body will never match that ideal image.

The truth is that women come in all shapes and sizes, and women of all shapes and sizes can be attractive.

However, we have developed unrealistic expectations from a lifetime of being continually told, and shown, the type of body image we are supposed to strive for. 

There is an enormous discrepancy between our culture’s recommended fantasy, and bodies that actually exist. 

If we buy into the idea that the perfect body is based on the average fashion model, a perfect woman would be about 5’10” and weigh less than 120 pounds.  However, the average American woman is about 5’4” and weighs about 169 pounds.

Our culture’s current female ideal body is a D-cup breast, tiny waist, sculpted abs, big butt and thigh gaps inches-wide—all in one.

Of course she should also look young and somewhat athletic with no visible flaws or physical disabilities, but as long as she is physically attractive, she doesn’t need to be very smart.

Many people discredit their weight-loss progress because of loose skin, stretch marks, or other features they don’t like. 

I’ll admit that I’ve been strongly influenced by a lifetime of exposure to our culture. Many times I’ve wished my body looked like the body of a Victoria’s Secret model. 

I didn’t look anything like that image at age 16, and I resemble it even less here in my 70s; but I’ve worked very hard to get the best body I can have. 

I appreciate the body I now have, including my wrinkles, scars, loose skin, and current size.  Even if plastic surgery were painless and inexpensive, it would not be a option of interest for ME, personallly.

No … I’m not 100% satisfied with how my body looks all of the time, but it’s okay to live in that space of semi-dissatisfaction.

While my body isn’t as attractive as I wish it were,  I remember how my body used to be when I was super morbidly obese, and I’m grateful for the size it is now, and the way it looks now.

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On Jun 12, 2017 Alma wrote:
We can be content without ever being 100% satisfied. It is in us to always reach for more, bigger and better. It is our natural drive forcing us forward. I lose and then I gain but if I don't regain back to the top number, I feel I am still moving forward. At 71 years old, the body is never going to be what I had in my 20's so I refuse to dwell on it anymore. I am happy to see you still '''doing'''! Thanks for all your '''offerings'''! You are loved by many who will never meet you for the sharing person you are.

On Jun 12, 2017 Dr. Collins wrote:
             Alma, Thanks for the kind words. I very much agree... "Content without ever being 100% satisfied." ... and, it sounds to me like you are very much on target.

On Jun 19, 2017 Kae wrote:

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