What Do You Want? - POSTED ON: Dec 01, 2018
Trying to motivate yourself is a pointless endeavor.
You want what you want whether or not you think you can have it, and you don’t want what you don’t want whether or not you think you should want it. Trying to “get motivated” is a side-issue that only diverts our attention from the main question.
Feelings are a fundamental and unavoidable part of why humans do what they do. We can’t ignore our emotions. Because of the way our brains are structured, when thoughts and feelings compete, feelings almost always win. Research shows that fighting our feelings just makes them stronger.
Motivation comes from inside us. Either we want to do something or we don’t. If we want to do it, we are already motivated. If we don’t want to do it, then why would we?
We are often told to make a list of our Goals.
But most of the things that wind up on that list aren’t ACTUALLY Goals at all.
For example, many people would say they have a goal of making money, but really their goal is the feeling of security and comfort that comes from making more money. So making more money is actually the STRATEGY, not the goal.
Or take a more personal goal, like being in a serious relationship and/or getting married. Again, this is a STRATEGY. Their goal might be to feel a deep connection, and have emotional security. Having a long-term relationship is a STRATEGY to get them closer to those goals.
In the same way, a goal of becoming Thin is also a STRATEGY. Most likely, the actual goal involves feelings about health, appearance, or relationships.
A goal is the Feeling you ultimately want from the thing you’re seeking. Ask yourself, “How will I feel when this happens?” The answer to that question is your goal.
A strategy, then, is the path required to get there.
When you’re clear on the difference between your goals and strategies, you’ll be more in touch with the big-picture purpose of what you’re actually striving for. Many people keep pushing toward goals that they’ve set for themselves, and then don’t understand why achieving them doesn’t make them satisfied or happy. Redefining your goals according to how you want to FEEL is a good solution for this problem.
Go to your list of goals, and consider each goal according to this definition.
Rewrite your goal so that it evokes a feeling, not just an action step or something you hope will happen.
A goal is a broad primary outcome.
A strategy is the approach you take to achieve a goal.
An objective is a measurable step you take to achieve a strategy.
A tactic is a tool you use
in pursuing an objective associated with a strategy.
What do I Really Want?
So, I asked myself this question, and I came up with these answers.
A broad primary outcome
Four Things That I Really Want
A plan of action designed to achieve an overall aim.
Lose weight until I get down inside my ideal weight maintenance range,
and then maintain my weight inside it.
A measurable step to achieve a strategy
I will eat only the amounts of food that will allow my body to get and stay inside my ideal weight maintenance range.
A tool used to pursue an objective associated with a strategy.
Originally posted on June 1, 2017; Bumped up for new viewers.
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I am Complete. - POSTED ON: Feb 03, 2018
having all parts or elements; lacking nothing; whole; entire; full; finished; no further work needs to be done.
Give this possibility a chance. It is possible to function well, energetically, beautifully, without feeling inferior. It is an Insult to Life to continually feel that you are inferior, less-than, unworthy, or worthless.
Never forget that whenever you are told that you must “Grow” or “Achieve” or “Accomplish” or “Acquire” to become superior, you are receiving a lesson that you need to improve, to be of better quality. What you are actually being told is, “You are less than”. Because, what does an instruction to become superior imply? It implies that you are inferior.
You have great regard for people who tell you, “Grow! Rise! Climb! Go! Progress! Gain superiority!”
You never ask them: “Why you are insulting me so?”
You never ask them,
“Am I so inferior that you must constantly tell me to grow and progress?
Am I so ugly that you are constantly telling me to make myself up and appear beautiful?
Isn’t telling me that I need to wear make-up an insult?”
That’s how the intelligent mind functions. It looks at the obvious fact. If somebody near you constantly tells you to go and brush your teeth, what does this obviously mean? It means they think that your breath stinks.
The world is constantly telling you, “Go wash your face, you are not all right”. And you take that as a compliment. “Oh, these are my well-wishers, they are telling me to wash my face”.
You never ask: “What’s so wrong with my face?”
And the more someone humiliates you the more regard you have for that person.
Someone will come to you and say, “You can rise up to the stars!” Don’t you see that this statement means that right now you are in the gutter?
But you will say, “This one, this expert, this guru, he is my well-wisher!”
You don’t ask, “Why do I need to rise up to the stars? What’s so wrong with me where I am?”
They say, “You can attain this and that!”
But you never ask, “And why do I need to attain?”
So ….you wear size zero designer clothing,….. now you are complete. All your life you have been chasing that completeness, but incompleteness has only been your own deep assumption.
Why are you holding on to that assumption? What makes you stay there? Throw it away.
This is what an intelligent life is:
‘“I will not accept this stupidity.
What are these advertisements telling me?
What are my family and my society telling me?
I am perfect as I am. Perfection is my nature.
I may not be skilled, yet I am perfect.
I may be at the bottom of the table, yet I am perfect.
My language skills may not be good, I am still perfect.
My body may not be lean or fit, I am still perfect.
My health might be poor, yet I am perfect.
If, in comparison, I may not look as attractive as others, I am still perfect”.
Hold on to this.
This is completeness.
The Source does not produce imperfect goods. The one from whom you come does not produce anything imperfect.
Everyone is beautiful, perfect, complete and divine. No one here has anything wrong with him or her.
Accept yourself unconditionally.
Do not hold grudges against yourself. Do not impose conditions upon yourself. Do not tell yourself: “I cannot rest until I achieve this or that”.
You are wonderful as you are; just realize your nature. Just live in your nature of perfection. None of us is "unfinished", or a "work-in-progress". Each of us is Complete at this very moment.
Your only fault is that you do not live in your nature. You created an assumption; you began living in that assumption; and that is the reason you suffer.
Live in your nature; you are perfect. Reject everything, everybody and every medium that tells you that there is something wrong with you. No, there is nothing wrong with you, there can be nothing wrong with you. No matter who you are, or what you have done, you are perfect as you are.
Always, already, unconditionally; you are complete.
Walk in that faith, live in that faith and laugh when somebody wants to give you some other message.
Realize that any person who gives you that other message is ultimately following their own self-interest; out of concern for their own financial advantage or their own emotional well-being.
Before you love anybody else, love yourself unconditionally.
You are beautiful! Fall in love with yourself. This Valentine’s Day buy a loving card for yourself.
Tell yourself, ‘I am complete, already, always’.
Dwelling On It. - POSTED ON: Jan 18, 2018
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