Forever Young - POSTED ON: Jun 12, 2017
Am I Satisfied With My Appearance? - POSTED ON: Jun 10, 2017
I will never be 100% satisfied
with the way I look.
In general, I like the way I look, but in reality we all have an ideal picture in our heads of what “thin” should be. No matter how successful I am on any diet, my individual body will never match that ideal image.
The truth is that women come in all shapes and sizes, and women of all shapes and sizes can be attractive.
However, we have developed unrealistic expectations from a lifetime of being continually told, and shown, the type of body image we are supposed to strive for.
There is an enormous discrepancy between our culture’s recommended fantasy, and bodies that actually exist.
If we buy into the idea that the perfect body is based on the average fashion model, a perfect woman would be about 5’10” and weigh less than 120 pounds. However, the average American woman is about 5’4” and weighs about 169 pounds.
Our culture’s current female ideal body is a D-cup breast, tiny waist, sculpted abs, big butt and thigh gaps inches-wide—all in one.
Of course she should also look young and somewhat athletic with no visible flaws or physical disabilities, but as long as she is physically attractive, she doesn’t need to be very smart.
Many people discredit their weight-loss progress because of loose skin, stretch marks, or other features they don’t like.
I’ll admit that I’ve been strongly influenced by a lifetime of exposure to our culture. Many times I’ve wished my body looked like the body of a Victoria’s Secret model.
I didn’t look anything like that image at age 16, and I resemble it even less here in my 70s; but I’ve worked very hard to get the best body I can have.
I appreciate the body I now have, including my wrinkles, scars, loose skin, and current size. Even if plastic surgery were painless and inexpensive, it would not be a option of interest for ME, personallly.
No … I’m not 100% satisfied with how my body looks all of the time, but it’s okay to live in that space of semi-dissatisfaction.
While my body isn’t as attractive as I wish it were, I remember how my body used to be when I was super morbidly obese, and I’m grateful for the size it is now, and the way it looks now.
Diet and Maintenance = Years of Ongoing Hunger Games - POSTED ON: May 05, 2017
Unbecoming - POSTED ON: Mar 22, 2017
Dieting as Suffering - POSTED ON: Feb 24, 2017
Due to my 11+ years of maintaining a large weight-loss, I consider myself to currently be a “dieting success”.
For the past 63 years, I’ve spent lots of time thinking about, reading about, and actually participating in a great many Diets that were designed to produce weight-loss.
Every Diet that I’ve ever been on involved my ability to withstand the physical, mental, and/or emotional hardship of living with various eating restrictions.
Although we can successfully put our primary focus on the positive aspects of a particular diet, or dieting in general, negatives still exist; and, on occasion, these thoughts will fill our minds.
What does “suffering” mean? Suffering is bearing, or enduring, pain or distress, which can be either physical, mental or emotional. Pain is the feeling. Suffering is the effect the pain inflicts.
What is “dieting”? Dieting is when a person gives their body less food than it needs to survive in the hope that it will eat itself, and thereby become smaller. Call it a diet, call it a lifestyle change, when a person starves their body hoping that it will eat itself to achieve the result of intentional weight loss, they are on a diet.
Most people perceive Dieting …a restriction of one’s food intake… to be a form of suffering, and weight-loss is considered the reward for enduring that suffering.
Successful dieting depends on the ability to make sacrifices. A sacrifice is something you give up for the sake of a better cause.
When dieting, a person continually sacrifices by eating less-food-than-their-body-wants-and-needs-to-maintain-its-status-quo, in order to make that body’s physical size smaller, i.e. to lose weight.
When the weight-loss payoff for that sacrifice, which involves suffering, is reduced or disappears, …. people tend to fail in their efforts to restrict their food intake.
Great loves affairs have a honeymoon period and dieting is no exception. A great many people do very well during the first two or three weeks of a diet.
It doesn’t matter how extreme the effort might be, how much restriction is involved, or how much hunger we might be facing; if the scale is moving, especially if it’s moving quickly, it’s easy to deny that we are suffering.
People who have come off the most extreme diets will often say that their restrictive diet was “great”, and that they just failed to stick with it.
But if their diet really was so great, why couldn’t they stick with it? Why wasn’t the promise of “thin” (aka: “healthy”) enough to keep them restricting their food intake?
In almost every case, people who are on an intense diet give it up once the scales slows down. While the scale is regularly whispering sweet nothings in their ears, it is easy to live in denial of their actual suffering that is involved with that eating behavior. After all, the numbers on that scale are flying down. But eventually and inevitably, their weight loss slows down.
This is the problem with weight loss; it simply doesn’t last forever. It slows down because the body loses weight, physiologic changes called “metabolic adaptations” occur that are designed to protect us against what the body perceives as some sort of famine. It slows down because, as we lose weight, there’s literally less of us to burn calories.
Weight loss also slows down because, in the diet’s early honeymoon-like days, dieters are usually more vigilant and strict. Eventually, if the scale slows down too much, stops, or …worse…starts going back up, suddenly all of that suffering becomes too much for them to endure. After all, why suffer if there’s no payoff?
I see a great deal of truth in what obesity specialist, Dr. Yoni Freedhoff, M.D. says in his book “The Diet Fix”.
Dr. Freedhoff says, "If you don't like the life you're living while you're losing, eventually you're going to find yourself going back to the life you were living before you lost." Doing this will cause your body to re-gain the weight-loss.
About weighing and scale addiction, Dr. Freedhoff says that physiologically, plateaus do not exist.
He acknowledges that there are periods of time when the scale doesn’t immediately and accurately reflect a person’s fat loss; but then he says ….”Unless it’s a temporary trick of the scale, . . . if you're not losing, either you're burning fewer calories than you think; you're eating more than you think; or some combination thereof.“
He says although there's really no such thing as a “Plateau”, there IS such a thing as a "FLOOR". If you've truly stopped losing weight, there are really only two questions you need to ask yourself.
1. Could I happily eat any less?
2. Could I happily exercise any more?
If the answer is "yes" then you can tighten things up, but If the answer to both is "no", there's nothing left for you to do. The number of your BMI is not an issue. You’ve Arrived. You’re There.
This is because IF you can't happily eat any less and you can't happily exercise any more -- then it's unlikely that doing this will ever become part of your permanent behavior. If your new eating behavior is only temporary, eventually your former eating behavior will return…along with your lost weight.
Eating isn’t really only about health or weight management. Food isn’t just fuel. If it were, we would all swallow our calorie pills, followed by our vitamin pills, and be whatever weight we wanted, because we would easily take in more calories, or less calories, depending on what body size we wanted.
Food really isn't ONLY about fuel or sustenance. It also exists for pleasure; to comfort; to celebrate; to bolster; and to support.
Some people are able to endure a great deal of suffering in order to reach a weight-goal that they greatly desire.
However, long term weight management has to somehow become more than just the entrenchment of suffering.
Individuals who want to succeed at maintaining long-term weight loss must find some long-term method of eating that allows them to be be able to eat less food in a way, that for them, doesn’t qualify as suffering.
I’m continually searching for that way.
NOTE: Bumped up for new viewers. Originally posted on 2/1/2016
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