Amused me ... Advice on Behavior Change

               We are not all the same.

I totally agree with the below quoted Facebook post by Kate of This is Not a Diet - its' your life. 

"When someone says they have come to peace with their body, whether it's loose skin, extra weight, cellulite, stretch marks or any other perceived "flaw", let them have their peace. If I say I'm happy with my weight, I don't want you to give me your ideas for weight loss solutions. If I say I am at peace with my cellulite I don't want you to tell me it can be removed with a magic cream. If I say I love my thick thighs, I don't want a list of exercises to slim them. And if a person says they have come to terms with their loose skin and see it as a reminder of all they have been through, not a flaw, they really don't need you to tell them to have surgery.

I think a lot of people get so wrapped up in their own body issues, they can't imagine how any person can really make peace with "flaws" such as these. They believe the person must be lying or fooling themselves. This is a false perception.

Making peace with your body isn't about having a flawless body, it's about how you feel in your mind. There are thin people who hate their bodies and fat people who love their bodies and every variation in between. Don't make the mistake of equating fixing your body with fixing your self-image. If surgery is something you personally want to do, that's your choice. But it's not everyone's choice. Let us enjoy our peace, in peace.

 
There's a great deal of weight-loss advice out there.  Thousands of books, online websites and forums, and people everywhere who will tell us exactly what to do. 

I like to keep an open mind, and as part of my Diet Hobby, I choose to access and analyze a great deal of that information. However, I totally agree with the following Facebook post which was made on 9/30/13 by Kate of This is Not a Diet - it's your life.

"First, people will tell you it's easy: JUST eat real food and move around a bit and you'll be thin!

But if you do that and you're still not thin, they'll start in on all the nuances of what you are doing wrong. Well you're eating too much sugar. Too much fat. Not enough protein. Wrong kind of fat. Wrong kind of carbs. Not starch, fiber! Not saturated fat, unsaturated! Oh no wait, not unsaturated, saturated! No fruit!! More fruit. 1 banana a day. Never eat bananas. No sugar, use substitutes. Wait, no sugar substitutes. Less meat. No meat. More meat. No potatoes. Don't eat dairy. Eat lots of low fat dairy. No, only full fat dairy. Drink protein shakes. Don't drink calories.

You're not exercising enough. You're exercising too much. No cardio, only weight lifting. Don't lift weights, run. Don't run it will stress you and you'll hold body fat. Only exercise in the morning. Exercise twice a day. Stop exercising so much. Lift heavy or go home. Lifting heavy will bulk you up. You have to eat more to support your exercise. Don't eat more or you'll negate the effects of exercise.

It's EASY, don't you see! If it's not easy, you're just Doing It Wrong! If you did it right, you'd be thin!

I don't know about you but I am so sick of all that. It's stuck in my head like a record on repeat and it makes me second guess every thing I do. The truth is, they don't KNOW an easy answer because there isn't one. Everyone has a different situation.

Eventually, you have to just tell them all to shut up and start listening to yourself. It's NOT easy. But it's your life, nobody else. Live it as you see fit."