Sometimes I am "Fed Up".
Sometimes I "Have Had Enough".

  As commonly used, these terms mean  "I want no more" of ........... Whatever.
They normally mean that one is unable or unwilling to put up with something any longer.
The way these "eating" terms are used outside of the food issue interests me.

I wish it were as easy for me to get "Fed Up" with a specific food,  

as it is for me to get "Fed Up" with a specific diet or way of eating.

 I wish that I could honestly say that I feel that I "Have Had Enough" of whatever I'm eating,
as often I can say that I've had enough of some aspect of another person's behavior.
Another case of fantasy wishes   ......

“Whether it's low-carb diets, low-fat diets, GI diets, middle-ground diets, vegan diets, and even bat-shit crazy diets, there are long term success stories and recurrent failures with each and every one, where the common ground to success is a person actually liking their life enough to sustain their new patterns of reduced dietary intake, and where the common ground to failure is suffering or restriction beyond an individual's capacity to enjoy their life.

………..when it comes to clinical utility and weight management, the last thing the world needs is to believe that there's only one right way to go.”

I totally agree with the quote above by Dr. Yoni Freedhoff M.D. who blogs at “Weighty Matters, Musings of an Obesity Medicine Doc and Certifiably Cynical Realist”

A close review of my website will show that although I’m not per se a “low-carb” person. I am a fan of Gary Taubes, and am very interested in the obesity concepts that he puts forth, although, my own experience …as well as what I’m hearing from the experiences of others …. tells me that even in low-carb or zero-carb eating, the amount of one’s caloric intake is an extremely important consideration when dealing with the issue of obesity.

Today, September 12, 2012, Dr. Freedhoff posted an article that might appeal to some of you with similar interests. Here’s the link: “Gary Taubes Launches Non-Profit to Prove His Low Carb Hypothesis”.

               
I recently ran across this inspiring post:

"The Best Advice:

I've had some success-- I suppose I can admit as much at this point, although it feels weird. So now I get a lot of people who PM asking for advice, or saying they look up to me, and flattering though that is, it's silly, because I pretty much just follow the rules (okay, the ones that make sense) and it all comes out in the wash. So I usually don't have much to add when people ask how you get where I have gotten, there's no great mystery: the reason I have been successful in some ways that others have failed I usually pass off as luck.

But that's not entirely true. I just realized it. There actually *is* one more piece, and because I love ya, I am going to share it with you now. Sounds trifling, but it contains volumes.

Here it is: YOU CAN do hard things.

I know, you're saying, "What's your point?"

Sometimes, when faced with a challenge-- especially if you're a recovering addict as so many of us are, when you approach something difficult, your inner voice says, "Holy crap-- I can't DO that"...and you do an about-face-- you reach for the drug (or food) of choice. To feel uncomfortable..and not to comfort yourself, is a hard thing --

but you can do hard things.

When it's late and you're tired, and you know you are supposed to walk, you said you would, and it's looking like it might rain-- it's hard as hell to lace those sneakers up and get out there---

but you can do hard things.

Protein shakes can taste yucky. It's hard to remember all those calcium supplements. It's hard to get 64 oz of water in. It's hard to plan meals, buy expensive and healthy choices, stay out of the cake in the lounge at work--

but you can do hard things.

You don't have to self-medicate. You don't have to eat those chips. You don't have to duck and avoid every unpleasant, difficult challenge in your path. Sometimes, the best bet is to admit their existance..."Yes, hard things, I see you trying to get in my way, but you know what? I CAN DO HARD THINGS!"

Sometimes this means having to survive a host of feelings you never felt before because you never let yourself feel them before-- stress, confusion, anger, rage. You can't numb them out or sand off their edges-- you have to stand right in your space and let them have a go at you-- and grit your teeth, and say to yourself, "Go ahead, get in my way. I'll get through this. I can do hard things."

And you will find that you will survive them. And as you survive them, you will face new ones, standing a little taller, because in time you will eventually understand and rely on the fact that you can do hard things. And eventually the "pass me some Ben and Jerry's--my boss is a jackass" response gives way to something new-- something that sounds more like this:

"Go ahead, Boss, bring it on. I'll have that on your desk by five."
"No thanks, Nancy, it's gorgeous but I really can't have an eclair right now."
"I guess I could just park back there and walk."
"It's only 8 ounces and I don't have to love the stuff, I'll just drink it quickly."
"If I spend ten minutes planning now, I won't be faced with tough choices later."

This message was posted back in 2009 by a member of one of the forums that I visit frequently.

 “I have noticed is that it is very easy to deny ourselves things  IN THE FUTURE
- we can all promise to have no treats - next week or tomorrow.
But change happens RIGHT NOW.
There is no magic clean slate that happens when … you start Day 1 of a new Diet…
The truth is that it is all one life and that each action you take right now
will affect the next set of results you receive.“

This is a Wise quote from a regular member of a forum which I frequently visit. 

                                                   
This past couple of months I've been extra busy with the details of life, but this weekend, I've finally found some quiet time to reflect on my personal weight-loss and maintenance goals and what behavior I'm willing to choose in order to achieve them.

 Today I did some catch-up reading at some of the forums I frequent, and one Thread particularly interested me. It is the journal of an intelligent and insightful person who has a great deal of difficulty with Denial. During the past several years I've watched as Flashes of Truth break through that Denial. Unfortunately, shortly after I see a Flash, each time it becomes lost again, buried in that Denial Abyss.   I feel certain that if this person could just retain those Truths for any length of time, she would achieve the weight-loss she so desperately hopes for.

One such Flash of Truth was a statement which was buried within her last month's posts:

"My goal has not been to lose weight or to eat less food,
it has been to desire to eat less food."

In essence, she describes an enormous stumbling block that most dieters encounter. Practically everyone with a weight problem would …. more than anything … like to rid ourselves of the DESIRE to overeat. For, of course, if that DESIRE left us, we would eat only the amounts and kinds of food that we need to sustain the body size we wish to have.

However, to actually WANT less food than the body needs to sustain it's current weight, is a goal that is ultimately impossible for almost anyone to achieve. Our bodies are designed to want to retain and store fat, and each of us has a built-in starvation response that triggers a desire to eat more whenever weight leaves our bodies. If that desire ever does leaves us…. it won't happen until AFTER our bodies have achieved weight-loss and adapted to that normal weight condition.

This is like an alcoholic saying that when they stop wanting to drink, they will quit drinking. Will never happen. First you quit… then, after years of not drinking, perhaps the desire to drink will also leave.

Another forum member did respond to her with the quote:

"Make peace with what is, and look to where you want to be."

 Acceptance wisdom.

Our overeating desire is something we cannot change, so it needs to be Accepted.
Our overeating behavior is something we can change, so we need the Courage to Change it.