Dreams and Goals are good things to have.
Most accomplishments start out as just a dream existing in the mind. However, Dreams and Goals need to be based on REALITY, which means they need to be based upon a sensible and practical idea of what can be achieved or expected.
While we can appreciate the Value of Dreaming about Future Goals, an emaciated Rhinoceros will never become a sleek and lean Unicorn. The Reality is that no amount of Diet or Exercise will ever turn a Morbidly Obese body into a Naturally Thin body.
It’s not a one-size-fits-all world. I’ve posted many articles here at DietHobby about the genetic differences of various body types. I’ve also posted many articles about the differences between bodies of the “naturally thin” who have always been at or near a “normal” BMI weight; bodies of people who have spent a few years or so being at a BMI of “overweight” or “borderline obesity”; and bodies of people who have spent many years with a BMI of “Morbid” or “Severe” obesity. You can find all of these articles in DietHobby’s ARCHIVES.
People often have magical thinking about thinness. It is common to become invested in The Fantasy of Being Thin.
The Fantasy of Being Thin is not just about becoming small enough to be perceived as more acceptable. It's Not about appearing indistinguishable from “naturally” thin people, while one wears clothing that flatter one’s body type, and which also serves to conceal existing body flaws such as loose, flabby, hanging skin, stretch marks, scars, wrinkles and cellulite etc.
It’s a dream about one’s body morphing into that of a Goddess…, achieving the appearance of a supermodel, looking “fit”, lean with taunt, smooth skin, firm uplifted breasts, flat stomach, tiny waist, firm bouncy buttocks, slender thighs, and long lean legs.
It is often, also, about becoming an entirely different person …one with far more courage, confidence, and luck than the Fat You has.
It’s not just, “When I’m thin, I’ll look good when I’m dressed well.”
It’s “When I’m thin, I’ll look really good in a skimpy bathing suit.”….And that fantasy goes on to include changes in our personal characteristics …. “When I’m thin, I will be the kind of person who struts down the beach in a bikini, making men weep.” … “When I’m thin, I won’t be depressed anymore.” .... “When I’m thin, I’ll start liking exercise.” ..... "When I’m thin, I’ll begin loving the outdoors.” ...... “When I’m thin, I’ll be more extroverted and charismatic, and have more friends than I know what to do with.”
We must overcome The Fantasy of Being Thin in order to be able to do what it takes to successfully maintain a large weight-loss long-term. The biggest cost of dieting for weight-loss is not the financial cost. It is the high emotional price of false hope. Many people have been wearied and traumatized by having their hopes repeatedly raised and dashed by the False Claims made by the Diet Industry.
I currently believe, and I think it is necessary to point out,….that once one’s obesity has become severe and long-term, no treatments currently exist that will dramatically influence the natural course of that morbidly obese body’s greatly increased set point. This means that, for such people, maintenance of weight-loss will always take a great deal of hard work.
I have also discovered that it takes a lot of Love for one’s own thinner body, along with a personal Acceptance of the …. what-some-would-consider-to-be-“flaws” ….. existing within that formerly-fat-body, to summon the sustained strength to continually follow-through with the changed eating behaviors which are required for long-term maintenance of a “reduced obese” body. Even after 10+ years of maintaining a “normal” weight, my body continually fights to return back to its higher weight through via increased physical hunger, increased appetite, reduced basic metabolic rate and so forth.
There will always be a vast physical difference between an emaciated Rhinoceros and a naturally sleek and lean Unicorn. There are also many physical differences between human beings. Realistic expectations can greatly help with achieving successful weight-loss and maintenance of that weight-loss.
I have a clear idea of my own personal weight-loss goals. Like most people, I also have an image of how I want to look and feel at my Ideal Weight Goal, and I have an intense desire to BE there - not only Reach that Goal, but Stay there Forever. Here is a picture showing my own personal ideal Weight Maintenance Range.
However, what I’ve learned is that Life involves Balance and Trade-offs which are based on what each of us “brings to the table” (genetically & otherwise), as well as what each of us values the most.
There are many different definitions of what is individually “beautiful” and also of what is “healthy”, and ….for many people here on earth,….. a BMI number doesn’t define either beauty or health. Not only do people define Beauty & Health differently, there are many differences in how highly various Food and Eating issues are valued within each individual life.
Advertising, the media, and the Diet Industry tells us that “thin” is the most beautiful and healthiest body type. Most people who reach a weight at the bottom of their BMI range would be considered “thin”, and some might even consider those people to be the “healthiest” that they could be, because of their low weight. However, there are others who define “Beauty” and “Health” differently, and THOSE people would prefer and choose different weight-goals.
For me, maintaining a large weight-loss involves striking a balance between how I want my body to look and to feel at a specific size; AND how little food I am prepared to eat indefinitely.
Personally, I place a high value of keeping my body somewhere inside my “normal” BMI range, and I am willing to eat very small amounts of food indefinitely to do so.
However, …. if the only way I could maintain that body size was to eat only 5 bites of food twice a day for the rest of my life, would I be willing to do that??? ….If the only way I could maintain that body size was to entirely eliminate specific foods from my life … whether it be sweets, carbs - refined or otherwise, meat, dairy products like cheese or butter??????
..................… No!!! …......................
Neither of those things would be an acceptable trade-off for me. It’s a matter of values.
In order to be able to moderately eat those foods, I would choose to accept being a larger size.
................How much larger?
That’s where the individually balancing of values comes into play.
The video below demonstrates an ongoing problem with research (and popular thinking) on weight and health.
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