Love Yourself

- POSTED ON: May 16, 2011

I like the way I look at a normal weight.
I don’t walk past a mirror or reflective glass
without taking a look and admiring my handiwork.
Most of the time when I look in a mirror, 
my reaction is “Damn, I look good!”

I could offset that paragraph by telling you
about the imperfections my body still carries.
But I’m not going to.
I believe in focusing on the positive.
I’m not going to let the “flaws” negate the positive traits. 
 I love my body just the way it is, the way it was,
and the way it is will be.

I am no longer waiting for perfection that will never arrive
before I decide I can love myself.
If I could give one piece of advice
toward the goal of accepting your body,
it would be to let go of the idea of Perfection.

Let go of the idea that there is something wrong with you.
Let go of the notion that if you could look just a little better,
you would be able to love yourself.
Realize that self acceptance is a choice completely independent
of your physical appearance.
Realize that Perfection does not exist.

It has always been my choice what food I eat and how much.
It has always been my choices that created the shape of my body.
I have to choose to eat the right amount, not too much and not too little.
The hardest part of learning this was admitting to myself
that all the mistakes I had made were choices I made.
It would be really easy to place blame on outside factors,
but that would be false.

 I can’t control the circumstances of my life
or the actions and words of others.
I can only control my reactions.
I accept that many negative things that have gone on in my life
have been due to my own choices. At the same time, I forgive myself.
This comes back to not expecting myself to be perfect.

There is a huge difference between accepting responsibility and placing blame.
Yes, I’ve dealt with some difficult situations in my life in less-than-healthy ways.
But it was not the difficult situations that caused this.
It was my own choices in how I dealt with them.
By saying this I am not saying that everything is my fault.
I am only acknowledging that it is my choice to make changes.

It really is 99% mental.
Is losing weight or maintaining weight loss really difficult?

But the actions to take are pretty straight forward.
Eat less. Move more. Everybody knows it.
Deciding to do it, believing you deserve it,
sticking with it… those are the hard parts.
Not because we don’t know how, but because we have
so many mental and emotional barriers in our way.

 We can love ourselves
and still desire to change our body size.
Let’s be mentally kind to ourselves while we deal
with changing the behaviors that determine our body size.

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Existing Comments:

On May 16, 2011 Karen925 wrote:
I did not gain one pound by someone forcing me to eat something. I chose it. Therefore, I can choose to lose one pound or to maintain as well by moderating my eating. The rest is details each of us must work out in the context of our lives. It is a hard question when I am asked, "How did you do it?" Knowing the generalities for all "eat less" seems trite at times when I tell epople this compared to the knottiness of "what does **eat less** look like for each person". This is the hard part I think most want someone else to figure out. I certainly did for most of my life. Love the cantaloupe colored hat.

On May 16, 2011 Dr. Collins wrote:
             Thanks Karen. ***** "The knottiness of what does eat less look like for each person"*******So true..and the essence of our individual weight problem.

On May 16, 2011 kimberchick wrote:
I do tend to blame situations for my wgt gain - just today while undergoing an ekg & echocardiogram due to complications caused by my wgt gain I blamed my wgt gain on the circumstances of my life over the past couple of years while the truth is that I chose to stop counting calories & eat whatever I wanted which is what led to my wgt gain :( There I said it I let it go I'm moving on :) It's not easy to love yourself no matter what especially w/the kind of baggage I carry but I am inspired to find the positive in as much as I can and love myself which includes feeding myself yummy healthy foods in reasonable amts which will cause me to reduce down to my very realistic goal wgt :) Thank you for my daily dose of thinspiration <3

On May 16, 2011 Dr. Collins wrote:
             Hi Kimber. Sounds like a good Plan to me.

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